you think i care

you think i care how cheesy it is?

okay, people. there are two things i really love in the world [on the same list as ... well, all the things you see in that there sidebar]. and they are: thanksgiving and lists.

and now, for a thanksgiving list of thankful-ly goodness.

my home. the furniture, the warm smells in the kitchen, the old-fashioned bathtub, the four-poster bed.

family - the kind you love because they're fantabulous people, not just because you share hapless chromasomes.

my mother because she knows i smoke pot, knows i have sex, and loves me as much as she always did. because when she looks at me, i realize what true love really means. because she laughs just like me, and laughs with me, and knows how best to style my hair and how best to hold me when i'm crying.

my dad because he knows when to step back and let me decide, and he's the most non-judgemental person i know, and because it's such a hidden treasure to get beneath his gruff exterior and see the honest, brilliant, loving and generous man beneath. and because he loves the simpsons.

and my brother, because he's never once been mad at me, even when i pulled his cats' tails. and because he's got a heart of gold - one of the few out there. and because he's part of the glue that holds the four of us magically together. and because underneath his business suit, he's still the biggest rock star i know.

my friends - the kind i'd take a bullet for: erin, beth, raychul, josh, matt, conrad. people whose weddings, children births, birthdays, and any-old-days i will be there to celebrate with. people who never cease to amaze me, challenge me, and bring a smile to my face. and buy me a drink when nothing else works.

my friends - the people you may not even talk to all the time, but you know that it will be like the ceaseless fabric of time when you see them, and pick up where you left off: payan, mido, marnix, the stephanies, victoria, jakob, christopher, luke, chris, the other chris, brandon, and will.

my web friends - because you make me laugh, and you don't mind sharing your lives and it makes it so much more fun: monkey, anna, chuckles, greg, alex, sarah b., ismat, and yes, even jason.

but also, randomly, i'd like to thank a total stranger: dave, who sat next to me on the train for two hours yesterday, is one of the most erudite strangers i've ever met, has a breathlessly well-tuned political mind, and was absolutely fantastic conversation for two straight hours. thanks, dave. good luck with the masters' degree.

i don't hold hands with family and pray at thanksgiving. but i do know the meaning of thanks - and of counting your blessings - and the things i give thanks for, every day, are those i've just listed. so, thanks.

and cheers to that. everyone have a safe, merry thanksgiving. quench your many appetites - not just sharing food, but sharing joy, love, and thanks.

and pass that cranberry sauce!

culinary wet dreams ...

culinary wet dreams ...

the other night, i was watching teevee, and i saw an ad for taco bell fajitas. and i got to thinking about fajitas. and then i thought, man, i really wish i could have lupe's fajitas - only the best damn mexican restaurant in the known universe, located in swingin' houston. and then i thought, dduuuuuuuuuuuuuuudde [yes, that's how i said it]. i'm flying into houston for raychul's wedding, in january. i can eat at lupe's ... several times! i can gorge myself on their delectable steak fajitas, with paper-thin tortillas and the deliciously tangy marinade that separates lupe's fajitas from all other fajitas in the world. am i wrong, erin? so here's the thing - when erin picks me up from the airport, make no mistake: we're going straight to lupe's. and then, on the way back from the wedding in austin, to drop me at the airport, guess where we're stopping, again - you got it. lupe's. i am intensely mouth-wateringly excited about this. not that raychul's wedding isn't exciting enough [sorry raych] but this is the steak-fajita icing on the cake.

but before i start salivating over january - i'm very, very excited also about thanksgiving. my parents and i go all out. for me! [okay, the other three hundred and sixty four days a year, i'm still a spoiled brat whose wonderful parents think i hung the moon.] but thanksgiving means that we get to cook all my favorite dishes - i get to spend wednesday night with mom in the kitchen, smoking cigarettes and making miracles happen: stuffing [bacon celery and raisins of course], my special sweet potato casserole [lots of brown sugar and walnuts], my mother's creamy potato oven casserole, fresh cornbread, homemade cranberry sauce... the list goes on. no guilt-easing vegetable dishes in my family - we get our starch and our turkey and our honeyed gravy and our several pies.

this all leads me to the wide-spread yet somewhat controversial stance that thanksgiving is loads better than christmas. there's no trapping of "gifts" and "baby jesus" and "figgy pudding". it's just food, people. it's all about the food. and the family. and this year, the snowy winter wonderland that will be adorning our cozy house in rhode island. i bloody love thanksgiving.

well, now that you're all drooling on your keyboards from all the foodie talk - get back to work. thanksgiving isn't until thursday. now go have your pathetic sandwiches for lunch ...

the peacock flies at

the peacock flies at midnight ....

i have a shocking revelation for my loyal fans. this may come as somewhat of a surprise to you all, seeing how devil-may-care and deliciously witty i can be - but i have a problem.

i am vain as a peacock.

yes, that's right. i am that girl that will change three times before leaving the house. i am that girl that will shower and change into something cheery when going grocery shopping on a blustery day. i am that girl that owns fifteen purses and 30 pairs of shoes.

i am that girl that cleans house in a dress, just to feel pretty. i am that girl that cannot watch an audrey hepburn movie without looking presentable. i am that girl who will reapply lip gloss and tossle my hair and pinch my cheeks pink before going into the coffee shop, as to look windswept and carefree.

and i am vain, i am oh so vain. i plan outfits for events months in advance. i make sure i have presentable underwear (preferably my pink lacy hipsters) on when i go out at night, even though there isn't a monkey's chance in hell that anyone will see them. i throw away pictures of myself that i find unpleasing. i have preferences on different mirrors in our house as to which is the most flattering. and for the record, there are four hung mirrors in our apartment, not counting the bathroom, which is my favorite.

this isn't just unadulterated tell-all. this has a purpose. i'm unveiling a new initiative: it's called Operation Free the Peacock.

while in discussion with the queen of wit, ms. sarah b., we have come up with a way to challenge our debilitating mirror-addictions: one day without looking in the mirror. at an as-yet-undetermined date next week, ms. sarah b. and i will go from morning to bedtime without once checking our reflection. this includes:
no mirrors
no window reflections
no car bumper reflections*
no subway glimpses
no staring intently into other people's sunglasses
no staring intently into total strangers' eyes
no staring intently at computer screens, toilet stall doors, or watches or any other shiny object.

*obviously, an exception should be made while sarah b. is driving - if it happens that she must catch her reflection in a rear-or-sideview mirror while safeguarding herself from harm, petit hiboux would like to assure everyone (including her betrothed) that she should look in a mirror rather than get in a car accident.

but what i really want to say is -

c'mon, sisters out there. shatter the beauty myth. throw the book at the obsessive perfection of beauty. don't worry about coloring inside the lines - just don't color at all. ignore your bangs. wear whatever you want to wear. practice a radiant smile instead of applying eyeshadow. think about the sass in your walk instead of your ass in those pants. show your true beauty without having to reaffirm it with a biased, 2-D representation. ignore the mirror - concentrate instead on your inner rock star. you'll look how you feel - like a million bucks. without a mirror.

you can do this for a day too - want to join us?

lions and tigers and

lions and tigers and bears, oh my!

there are certain animals i love. there's something about these animals that appeals to me. if i were to have to return as an animal (hopefully i won't return as a cockroach for all the parking spaces i've stolen from little old ladies), it'd better be one of these guys:

i could be a wombat. see the resemblance? i'd be incredibly rare, one of the rarest animals in the world. i'd be a nocturnal grazer, mainly because i'm lazy about fighting other animals for food and i really don't think tans complement my complexion. i'd spend a lot of time fanatically rearranging my burrows, creating an intricately complex system of interlocking tunnels and decorating it just so. i'd only have one baby at a time, not a whole herd of them. it'd be nice to be a wombat.

or, maybe a llama! because, you know, baby llamas are the the cutest thing you've ever seen. they like to kiss - only when it's llamas, it's called a whiffle... it's sort of like having someone blow a puff of air on your face. once you've been whiffled, there's no going back. i could live in the andes, maybe be a pack-llama for some adorable mayan boy. i could spend my time being adored and petted by humans. llamas' way of asserting dominance over one another is to spit at each other. hell, this skill could come in handy right now. plus, when llamas are happy, they hum. i do too. usually i hum 'fascinating rhythm' or 'when i'm 64'. i wonder what they hum...

i actually have sort of a fascination with long-necked animals.. maybe i want to go whole hog (*grunt*) and be a giraffe in my next life. i mean, look at these guys. look how they drink. look at them as babies. they've even got little bird friends. aren't they cute as hell? yeah. i'd definitely want to be a giraffe.

but really, in the end - i'd probably pick the good old sloth. you know those treacherous dogmatic catholics gave this noble creature a really bad rep, what with the whole cardinal sin and all. i mean, could this face ever commit a sin? look at those guys! don't you want to take one home, wrap him around a tree, and watch him spend six months crossing the yard? i mean, see? aren't you the least bit jealous of the sloth? here's a creature that can't even walk on the ground very well, but he's one of the most powerful swimmers in the world. this variety, the maned three-toed sloth, lives in the amazon rainforest, in bahia, brasil. his swamp lands, for several months a year, are completely flooded - and the trees become an underwater forest. that's gotta make life kind of hard for the tree-dwelling sloth. does the sloth relocate to, say, someplace like san francisco, where he's just another long-haired freak in the castro? hell, no, my friend. the sloth simply swims around his home for months on end, taking sometimes a whole day to cross the river. that's the kind of relaxed yet dogged man i'm talking about. perseverence, not laziness.

plus, he's got that wicked cute face.

yep. if i had to be an animal, i'd definitely be a sloth.

survival of the stiletto.

survival of the stiletto.

i have an idea. a plan, if you will. a contest to determine, once and for all, the superior sex.

let's have a contest. everyone goes to work for one day in heels. women and men. and not sensible lands-end heels, mind you - something like these. something truly wicked.

at the end of the day, when all the powerdicks throw themselves down flights of stairs to end their suffering, the women can quietly take over the company.

and they call us the weaker sex. harrummpph.

things that are missing,

things that are missing, and other updates.

this picture depresses me ...

because several elements you see represented here are no longer a part of me.
my car. *sniff*
my long hair.
those sunglasses.
a digital camera.

doesn't that render an otherwise interesting picture sadly tragic? at least i still smoke.

in other news, had a nice relaxing night yesterday. went out to dinner with vixen, and we discussed how cute my new cell phone is. came back to the apt and watched west wing, got my bradley whitford fix for the week.

then i ambled over to blue sea, and had donuts and coffee with the erudite alex. we spent a happy hour talking literary shop, which was like a junkie fix for me ... i don't have enough people in my life who will willingly discuss books, their merits, the authors, and the literary world with me for a whole hour. cheers to that.

what are you reading lately?

cheers, k.

i love the winter

i love the winter weather ... because i've got your love to keep me warm.

well, site redesign is just about finished. i've lost several hairs to the grey side, several hours forever, and had just about one of the worst days ever. but, on the bright side, your mix CDs should be ready to ship out by friday, and there's an all new west wing on nbc tonight.

*sigh*

k

warning you might get

warning

you might get a brief flash of our knickers as we're busy remodeling. please ignore the clashing colors and come back later.

cheers!

k

update: 4.15 pm -

update: 4.15 pm - only one CD left ... who will it be?

hottt and free ...

hottt and free ...

here at petit hiboux, we like to prove maxims wrong. every day. so if "they" say there's no such thing as a free lunch, we're giving out a free .. well, a mix cd.

that's right. i made a pretty rockin' mix cd last night, complete with kicky graphics, and i want to give it away. so, i'm going to send ten of them out. the first ten people to comment on this post* will recieve an awesome mix cd. it doesn't matter if i've never met you, or you've never peeked your shy face out in my jolly comments ... you, too, will get a kickin' mix cd.

the mix cd features such stellar musicians as interpol, the french kicks, mirah, fountains of wayne, morphine, chomsky, death cab for cutie, and my all-time favorite and the only rock star i know personally - josh dillard of heads up display. and it's all yours. free. sent to your address, in the mail, just because i like you.

see how smashingly wonderful i am?

cheers, k.

*bonus points for funny jokes told or over-the-top compliments lavished.

**** update: as of 11:30, the first three CDs go to stacey, alex and anna. you know what they say about the early bird...****

**** 12:15 pm - only five left! ****

mothballs, grappa and gunpowder

mothballs, grappa and gunpowder

there are many things i want to talk about today - i'm feeling chirpy and talkative. among the things i feel the need to mount my soapbox about are:
1. who's afraid of the 2004 election? or: why we shouldn't step in the same river twice and nominate al gore for democratic candidate
2. beating the dead iraqi horse: the futility of another U.N. weapon's inspection and saddam hussein's ongoing tyranny of his self-appointed iron fist on the iraqi people
3. "it wasn't me!", "mo' money, mo' problems", "you can call me dirty, and then lift up your skirt" - and other possible rap-inspired theme songs for specific members of the corpus politicus, including but not limited to dick cheney, tom delay and bill clinton.

but no, as tempting as these topics may be, i won't be discussing any of these things. instead, i've been thinking about olafactory memory.
yes, that's right.

memory, you see, can be a tricky thing. memory is a corridor in our minds, with filing cabinets bursting with so much information, its a labyrinthian exercise to truly recapture an event in all its manifestions - sight, words, emotion, touch ... if you've ever had your hand burned, or your toe broken, for instance, you can remember that there was a lot of pain, but asked to describe with clarity the exact feeling of the pain, you'd be hard-pressed. instead, you relay the experience in terms of emotion, or sight, or touch.

different memories are retrieved from that vast filing system using different senses. and in my admittedly limited life experience, there is no more powerful alert system than smell, when it comes to matters of the heart. although i would be searching in vain to remember the exact intonation of someone's voice from the past, nor would i recognize it over the phone lines, their particular smell - their soap, their hair, the smell of their sheets or their pet or their car ... will jerk open one of those drawers labeled person from the past with a resounding thud, and flood the floor of my memory with images, and post-it reminders of their presence in my life. it's a mess that takes sometimes a few days to recover from.

my first love [if you can call being 15 and obsessively attached to someone "love"] was an italian lad named s. he was a wild one - still is, by all accounts. as unhealthy as our mutual year-long obsessive attachment to one another was, we truly believed we were in love. all obvious signs of incompatibility to the contrary, you understand.

s had a smell, a smell that infused his whole person, indeed his whole house. he had many other defining characteristics, of course, but there's that tricky labyrinth of memory: i wouldn't be able to imitate or even recognize his italian accent, i don't remember what his hands looked like, and my few archived visuals of him are simply moving versions of my few remaining photographs from that era.

his family was possibly one of the strangest bunches of people i've ever met. his home always seemed empty, as if everyone had just put down their things and walked out, seconds before i arrived. there was an ever-present maid, and a little daschund named charlie [pronounced sharlee by s, that much i recall]. his sister had a separate little building, off the main house, and her rusting vw beatle was always parked in the driveway.

but his smell was distinct. it was musty - sweet yet somehow old and decadent. it was so forceful a presence in my memory that it wafted into my life again five years later, walking down the street in london with m, another friend from my past and my only connection to s now. we were both strolling, in the march chill, when suddenly, as if from a passing stranger, the smell of that long ago house and boy slipped into my nose and started flinging those file cabinets open, helter skelter. i stopped, looked at m, wondering if he'd smelt it too. he had.

and yet, somehow we couldn't figure out exactly what it was that had brought on such an oddly distinct smell, in such an incongruous place. a busy street in downtown bustling london is about as far removed as one can get from a charmingly messy house full of eccentrics in the dignified neighborhood of muthaiga, in nairobi.

because my stroll with m in london was more about the present than the past, we let it go, chalking it up to odd serendipity. but recently, trying to piece together the olafactory puzzle of lost loved ones, a friend asked exactly what s's house smelled liked.

and grappling for words and musty post-it reminders in my hall of memory, the best i could come up with was a patchwork of smells that still remind me of him today: mothballs, grappa and gunpowder. s, wherever he is, would understand why.

tell me - what smells do you remember?

*editors note: to all faithful friends, especially my daily blog*spot friends: all further references to petit hiboux's snarky dislike of the great city of boston - its habits, its big dig extravaganza, its baseball failures, and its obsession with the revolution are provided purely to get a rise out of dear monkey boy and are merely in jest. right, monkey?

two things i like:

two things i like:

walt whitman's among the multitude [from leaves of grass]

among the men and women, the multitude,  
i perceive one picking me out by secret and divine signs,  
acknowledging none else—not parent, wife, husband, brother, child, any nearer than I am;  
some are baffled—but that one is not—that one knows me.  
  
ah, lover and perfect equal!          
i meant that you should discover me so, by my faint indirections;  
and I, when I meet you, mean to discover you by the like in you.  

- walt whitman

and

the opening to t.s. eliot's love song of j. alfred prufrock [go read the whole thing here.]

 
let us go then, you and I,
when the evening is spread out against the sky
like a patient etherised upon a table;
let us go, through certain half-deserted streets,
the muttering retreats       
of restless nights in one-night cheap hotels
and sawdust restaurants with oyster-shells:
streets that follow like a tedious argument
of insidious intent
to lead you to an overwhelming question …         
oh, do not ask, “what is it?”
let us go and make our visit.
 
in the room the women come and go
talking of michelangelo."
- t.s. eliot

tell me, what's your favorite poem?

i *heart* lists ...

i *heart* lists ...

things i've never liked, ever, and never will:

sushi.
football [american].
pink floyd.
british food.
violence.
and
tom cruise.

things i never thought i'd like, but now do:

the new york accent.
johnny cash.
cigarettes.
corona.
joseph heller.
and
housecleaning.

things i used to like, but now can't stand:

boston.
the cranberries.
keds.
people named chase.
splashy musicals.
and
domino's pizza.

things i've always liked, and always will:

c.s. lewis.
football [non-american].
the ocean.
beth davis.
cupcakes.
and
the supreme court.

the one thing that i really hate:
seafood.

the one thing that i really love:
friendship.

the one place i'd never live:
greenland.

the one place i'd move to in a heartbeat:
limuru, kenya.

the one person i'd like to spend the afterlife with:
oscar wilde.

the five people i'd like to invite to a dinner:
thomas friedman, lowell bergman, ann richards, bill maher, and madeleine albright. [because, wow, what a party.]

the one celebrity i want to marry:
owen wilson.

the one thing i'll never do at my wedding:
wear white.

and the one thing i'll never tell you on this website:
who my biggest internet crush is.

cheers,
k

all ails have cures

all ails have cures ....

and here are some band-aids for mine:

1. this drink, while preparing this quiche.

2. taking a trip here, or possibly this sunny paradise, or depending on who's paying, this charming little villa in the south of france.

3. or, of course, i could stay for a few months in this little charmer in paris ...

4. or, merely, this nifty cake tin to make these scrumptious french treats.

sadly, i have none of these things. i will simply have to enjoy myself by having drinks at the scotchbonnet with an old friend tonight, and going home to my non-parisien apartment tonight.

and, a fresh pack of cigarettes. some things are always there for you.

cheers, k.

rowrrrr! okay, grr. i

rowrrrr!

okay, grr. i wrote this nice long post on the theory of life - how happiness is achieved by balancing love, health/home, and work.

and then my IE kicked the bucket. so the post is gone.

suffice it to say, the point was: autumn makes me lonesome. it makes me rethink my whole argument presented with flair here about how i enjoy being single and running my own life, and how i'm not willing to get my undies in a twist over the myth that is "casual dating", and simply enjoy myself until the right man* comes along.

but i digress. what i'm trying to eloquently state is this:
summer makes me flirty and more likely to kiss a random boy at a party just to beat the heat.

spring makes me not even care about sex and boys - just friends and sunshine. and road trips.

autumn and winter just make me want that certain someone, whoever he is, to show up right quick so that we can wear flannel pj's and open christmas gifts on the living room floor and cook each other fantastic meals and read books together in bed. oh, and have great it's-cold-outside sex. duh.

*sigh*.

that is all. every other witty charming thing i said evaporated into the e-ether.

*details to follow at a later date about what being the right man actually entails [hint: must be bookishly cute and love to read. actually, that's about the whole of it. dog-owner a plus], and how incredibly likely it is that this gentleman is a complete figment of my wild imagination [yes. i do have an imaginary boyfriend. his name is paul.]

einstein, humanity, and the

einstein, humanity, and the famous roman pewter spoon story.

if you're in new york - which few of my loyal owlets are - you should go to the museum of natural history, post haste. there's a fantastic exhibit of einstein's papers, explanations of his theories in laymen's terms and great photographs and demonstrative science experiments.

i know, i know. i'm a giant nerd. but the m.n.h. always rocked my face. when i was a wee owlet with large glasses, my sister* lived at 77th and columbus, right across from the southern entrance of the museum. we spent many happy summer months, my mother and i, staying with tania and pounding pavement in nyc. but what did this little owlet love to do more than anything else?

that's right. go to museums. specifically, the mnh. my mother used to drop me at the door, and i would spend four or five happy, airconditioned, brain-stimulated hours wandering from the giant blue whale to the wild cats exhibit, crouching down to read the fine print on the baole tribe of west africa ... you name it, i knew it. i was a bespectacled, frizzy-haired, diminuitive sponge for knowledge.

once, i was dragging my reluctant mother through the halls of the british history museum, or something to that effect [perhaps it was the v&a? i don't remember.] and we stopped at an exhibit on roman empire artifacts, found in great britain. and there were these little pewter spoons, which the text box claimed were found in BlahBlahShire, England. as my mother was reading the card, i tugged on her arm and told her all about the gentleman who had dug them up, and the dispute between him and the country bumpkin who lived next door about whose land it was, and the ensuing nasty property dispute. as my mother stared at me, the museum stiff who was giving a tour also came over to peer at the spoons and ask me quite snobbily how i knew all this.
"it was part of a short story by Roald Dahl, in his book The Wonderful World of Henry Sugar," i told her. and i was right.
"how old are you?" she asked.
"ten."

my mother tells that story to everyone who'll stand still long enough to listen.

but i digress. the point is, i love museums. and to hear my feet sounding out once more through the hallowed marble halls of my beloved childhood haunt, it reminded me why. i love museums because of what their sheer existence says about human beings. we are greedy, yes. we are self-serving, yes. we are individualistic and machievellian to a fault, yes. but there's something within us, something greater than ourselves - something that splendid old einstein understood quite well - something that longs to understand, and pass on that understanding to others. millions of dollars, collaborative dollars, are spent each year to maintain, to preserve, to glorify the great, and the tragic, moments in human history. we cherish art work that opened our eyes, like van gogh - we cherish papers that changed the word, like the correspondence between einstein and fdr on the subject of using uranium to create a bomb hitherto unimaginable by the scientific community.

why? because memory is one of the few grand things we all share in common, and one of the few reasons i have faith in the perseverance of decent humankind. we have a need to look back in order to look forward with more clarity. we nurture in our society and our children the idea of public institutions that teach us who we are, what we've done, and help us answer the question of why we are.

and i love museums, because of what they signify about humanity. and because i'm still that child who wandered the halls of museums in new york, london, florence, madrid, athens, cairo - fascinated by the ceaseless canvas of narrative that the world has to offer, and wants to preserve.

cheers, k.

*sister: okay, not really. she's an old family friend from brasil, that my gay brother married so that she could get her green card. but i was only 10 at the time, and it was explained to me as: "yeah, this is tania. luiz married her. isn't that swell?" since then, she's just been my sister, because that's easier than: ex-sister-in-law-from-marriage-of-convenience.

you want personal? oh,

you want personal? oh, i can give you personal.

recently chided by dearest sea for shying away from topic: how i'm doing here at petithiboux, i stand corrected. although you probably aren't all that interested and would wish that i would return to topic: being deliciously witty, there are a few things on my mind.

like, life.

i realized today [while having tea and petit madeleines for lunch at star*ucks] that my life, essentially, hasn't changed in three months. the last time things were shifting was august. this happened, followed by this, two things that ruled in their own ways. and since then, it's been slow going in this little owl's nest. i'm starting to feel like every day is like every other day, and all those days add up to weeks that are like every other week, and pretty soon, i'll be thirty.

my whole life, i have strived to make each day count for something - find one little blip on every day's radar that makes it stand out, that will give me cause to say, ah, yes - on that day, i saw a really beautiful tree on kimball avenue and i stared at the leaves fall for an hour or on that day, i fell with my ice cream and it made me feel five years old, and so i laughed my pants off or on that day, i had the best cup of coffee with beth, and i realized what a huge influence she was on me ... you see where i'm going with this? everyone teases me for having an impeccable memory - i can remember what someone wore the first time we met, or the song playing when he broke up with me, or the last name of a friend's crush as well as their phone number. my mentor once told me that i have a mind like a steel trap. that's because i chose, actively, to remember my life as a series of new and exciting discoveries.

but lately, i go to work every day. and come home. and every day, i think that my house isn't clean enough. and every day, i hate waking up. and every day, i wonder if i'm saving enough money. and every day, i wonder if i'm doing enough with my life. and every day, i can't wait for the day to be over so that the next day can repeat itself in a worn groove of familiarity.

and then i think - where have i gone? where is my memory? where is my eye-camera, and my mind-pen? have i stopped being in awe, or just stopped noticing it? when will my sense of wonderment kick back in? when will i start looking up at the buildings again? when will i remember every single day because of something that happened?

but in times like these, it is important to keep the world in perspective, to turn the focusing ring one more time so that the truly important matters become sharp, and the endless mosquito-whine of ennui is reduced to the blur that it truly is.

so in times like these, i make lists.

the more important things:

beth and josh seem happy. they are rather poor right now, beth is rather stressed and josh is burning both ends of the candle. but through that, they are happy, and still very much in love. they have their secret language and their shared world-for-two. this always gives me hope.

sea is well. he is working. he's learning from his mistakes and his successes. he seems to be building a faith in himself that i always knew him capable of.

fall has lessened its deafening cold winds and given me a few days of balmy 70's.

tulips, white ones, are in season.

i made a fantastic quiche on sunday. fan.tast.ic.

people i don't know are actually reading this. this, perversely, makes me happy. thank you, chuckles and monkey and anna and greg. i like feeling a part of a community - and you are all very funny and interesting albeit far away, so nice to "meet" you. welcome. stay a while. have some tea.

i read an amazing book - so close to my heart - melvin's signs and wonders. so good. read it. if you know god - it will make you question him. if you don't know god - you'll wonder about the people that do.

i have a bed now. a real one. my back can stop hurting now.

did i mention my fantastic quiche? and my fantastic friends?

yeah. ennui? boredom? life-questioning? don't let the door smack your fat ass on your way out.

cheers, k.

"she is scantily clad

"she is scantily clad and supine on the bed, talking about the licentious nature of her erudite friend, who's having an affair with that monte carlean plenipotentiary, but i see through the hazy nebula of her impetuous trickery, and get to know her nubile body (corporeally speaking, of course) while she waxes rhapsodic in my ear."

your turn, monkey boy.

woe is me. and

woe is me. and everyone else here.
cups of coffee: 4. ciggies: 5. times almost lashed out at random strangers: 5. bumping headlong into a cop and muttering "oh, fuck" and then blushing: priceless.

reasons today sucks:

the weather.
republicans in the senate.
republicans in the house.
republicans in the oval office.
republicans everywhere.

people i would like to apologize to:
shiv. i'm a horrid cow-face, will you forgive me?

things that cheered me up today:
deborah buying donuts at the office and putting a sign on them that said "donuts for democrats only".
donuts in general.
having lunch with ful today at ho jo's.
talking to c-rod.

away, away, away down

away, away, away down south in dixie ...

okay, yankees, i'm going to make some very important points to all you people [except erin, who knows them already] so i'd like you to listen very, very carefully.

Most Important Thing You'll Ever Know About Texas:

It is NOT in the goddamned Southwest. It will never be in the goddamned southwest. southwesterners don't consider texas the southwest, and neither do texans. southwest is a place where pueblo houses exist, and canyons and native americans. texas, you'll notice, has none of these things.

Let me correct your misconceptions now and forevermore: texas is in the south. Texas fought alongside the rest of the south in the civil war [known in dixie as "The War We Should Have Won"]. I'm not advocating the civil war, or its causes, or its repurcussions. i'm just pointing out that texas fought in it. new mexico and arizona, you'll notice, did not. why? because they're not southern states. They're southwestern.

My point is - to be a southern state is more than a geographical concept. If it were solely geographical, do you really think virginia would be a Southern state? It's practically in new jersey, for crying out loud. It's sniffing new york's ass. No. virginia is a southern state because it fought on the side of the confederacy.

and so did texas. even if that is a continual source of shame to "real" southerners from places like savannah, gawgha.

And another thing about texas: i'm sick and tired of all you people making fun of it. really. i'm sick of trying to be truthful about texas and being told i'm brainwashed. i'm sick of people like amy long, who had never met a texan in her whole life, thinking that she had the right to call texans 'ignorant' and 'racist' because she's from boston [rant on why boston sucks my face later...]. I'm going to correct a few myths about texas, and from now on, you can just keep your opinion to yourself about texas, unless you've lived there for more than a year:

1. texans are racist: this is hypocrisy of the worst kind, especially when coming from a new yorker. I've lived in texas, and westchester, and africa - and westchester is by far the most racially segregated place i've ever been. it's the worst kind, too: economic segregation. texas has one of the most integrated hispanic populations in the country: hispanics make up an overwhelming percentage of texan middle class, they own many businesses, they are fairly represented in city politics [far from perfect, but better than the "great state of new york"], and they are a vibrant, visible community.

2. texans are ignorant: based on what? texans do tend to be more religiously minded and more politically conservative. but when liberals are judgemental and closeminded enough to assume that everyone who's religious and republican is an ignoramus, they've got a sudden rash of pot-calling-kettle. i know plenty of texans that are very religious and conservative - and they're still good people, who care about their communities and their families and the world. and not all of them voted for bush.

3. texas is ugly and polluted: correction - houston is ugly and polluted. and even in houston, because texans really like to have a good time - there's fun to be had. as for the rest of texas, i know spots near austin, in Hill Country, that will take your breath away. there are stretches of road in texas where you see nothing but blue sky and green grass, and a couple bales of hay. Big Bend, the desert in west texas, fell right off a canvas, painted in red dirt and purple sky. granted, there's a lot of pollution in south-east texas, and beaumont was voted the ugliest town in america. but there are spreads of natural beauty in texas that would make you weep. so do our margaritas.

my point with this diatribe is this: i lived in texas, off and on, for five years. i still go back to austin about once a year. i have texan friends - i also have friends that are transplants to texas, like me, and they love it too. of course it has its flaws. so does massachusetts [although i would go so far to call boston a cancer sore on the face of new england ...]. so does california. but texas isn't a simple place, with simple people. it's huge, its complicated, with a complicated history and a proud constituency. texans are different - they're unique. they're not all cowboy hats and oil drills, nor are they all big hair and debutantes.

i've known texas all my life, one way or another. and i've always said - if you can't love texas and hate texas with the same breath, you haven't really gotten to know it.

so shut up, yankees. 'fore i smack you up and hogtie you to the back of my truck.

Ode To Back Pain

Ode To Back Pain
for monkey boy, and his charming rhymes

there once was a sweet little owl,
whose bad back pain made her scowl,
"is sex the solution?
papal absolution?"
she wondered aloud as she howled.

her roomie had much cause to laugh,
because the owl was always in the bath,
heating pad strapped on tight,
on the couch every night,
watching TV and feeding her wrath.

"it's time to buy a new bed," she cried!
"or a new pain-free chair at work", she sighed.
"or a week on a beach,
wouldn't that be a peach,
instead of back pain, and another long subway ride!"